The search for meaning and purpose is a lifelong pursuit. It is a basic human desire to be seen, known, and valued – and everyone deserves to be treated with respect. Just because we age does not mean we lose our right to dignity. Sadly, many senior citizens end up feeling lonely, forgotten, or irrelevant when they get older, but it doesn’t have to be this way. There are many ways that you and your family can ensure that your loved ones age with the dignity that everyone wants and needs.
How to Respect a Seniors Dignity
Always Listen: Everyone wants to know that their feeling and desires are important to others, and seniors are often scared that they have lost not only their independence – but the respect of their loved ones. Your family member may feel that their options and choices are becoming limited and that other people are making important decisions on their behalf. Actively listening to what they have to say is essential to show respect and prove the importance of their dignity. When in conversation, maintain eye contact and lean towards them. Hold their hand if appropriate, and turn off your phone. Genuinely listening to your senior loved one’s thoughts is one way to assure them that they will always be loved and worthy of your attention and respect.
Show Patience: Keeping an even keel can be difficult when speaking with an elderly family member, especially if signs of dementia have begun to manifest. As they grow older and their personalities turn unrecognizable, relationships will inevitably change as well. Your senior may be having memory issues or struggling to perform everyday chores and tasks. It is important to step back for a moment, take a deep breath and commit to being present in the moment. Be sure to care for your own well-being, so you can avoid irritation and frustration, instead enjoying the time you have together.
Watch Your Words: Sadly, the elderly are often spoken about as if they are not in the room. We don’t intend to be disrespectful or inconsiderate of their feelings, but this habit can absolutely damage their dignity. While it may be true that your family member’s understanding might be lacking sometimes, try to speak directly to them, including them in any conversation. This small act will go a long way to offering the respect they deserve.
Practice Empathy: The ability to truly understand and be empathetic to the emotions of another human being is rare. For some, empathy is a gift, while others must work at cultivating this capability. Remember that your senior loved one is entering a new stage of life, one that is often confusing, scary, and intimidating for them. Practicing kindness, compassion, and being aware of their emotions will help you to better navigate the situation with respect.
Encourage Independence: While your family member may be struggling with successfully completing everyday tasks, it is still vital to let them try. Often we jump in and take over these tasks to save time, but our impatience can make them feel incapable of doing anything for themselves. Collect your patience, allow them the time to try to care for themselves, and enjoy their satisfaction when they accomplish what they set out to do.
Elderly family members have earned our dignity and respect. At A Banyan Residence, we provide our residents with a fulfilling life, no matter their age and cognitive ability. Call today for a tour and to learn more about our memory care and assisted living residence options.
