Thanksgiving dinner is a special tradition for most families, but the last several years have caused many to have to change their plans. Sadly, many seniors have been forced to spend the holidays without their loved ones recently, so this year is special in its opportunity to bring everyone back together. However, not every senior is mentally or physically able to go to their family’s home for the festivities, so their loved ones should work on an alternative way to all be together.
- If your senior loved one is within visiting distance, but it is difficult to bring them to your home for any reason, you may consider bringing them Thanksgiving dinner. You can choose a time prior to Thanksgiving Day to have dinner at the assisted living or memory care center. Speak with the staff at the facility to understand what their rules may be, then start to plan a party! Here in Florida, a holiday meal can be an outdoor picnic or a formal dinner, so plan the menu accordingly. Bring as many festive foods as you can, especially if you know your loved one’s favorite holiday dishes. You may also wish to ask the facility if they would allow you to invite other residents to make their day special as well.In addition to food, you may wish to make a day of it – crafting, singing, or sharing stories of gratefulness. Bring as many family members as you are allowed, and enjoy a memorable Thanksgiving dinner.
- If your loved one lives close by but is not comfortable with a large gathering, consider having a smaller dinner at your home on a different day. Cook a chicken with all the traditional fixings, and invite a few special people. While many elderly people miss the idea of a Thanksgiving dinner, being with too many people in a loud, unfamiliar environment can cause fear and confusion. Creating a more intimate atmosphere allows them to enjoy a family tradition without all of the crowds and unfamiliarity.
- If your loved one lives in another state at an adult living residence, you may need to get a little more creative. Send your loved one a fun holiday treat, a fall-themed bouquet of flowers, or an adorable stuffed turkey to let them know that you are thinking of them. Call the center and find out what they are planning, and ask if there is anything you can add to the festivities. If your senior has the technology needed to Facetime or Zoom with you, ask the staff at the facility to set up a call for you. Be sure to choose a time when you will have the gathering at your home, and invite everyone at the party to talk to your family member.
- Because holidays away from family can make a senior feel lonely and isolated, consider taking a trip to visit them over the holiday week. A simple meal in person can mean the world to them, and it doesn’t have to be fancy. You can ask the facility if you can join them for Thanksgiving dinner or arrange to take them out to a restaurant. Whatever you choose, your loved one will know that you chose to travel to see them over the holiday season, and it will make a huge difference for them.
Whatever you choose, make sure you take photos – you can frame them and give them as a special gift over the Christmas season.
A Banyan Residence is an assisted living and memory care center in The Villages.
