The relationship between a grandparent and grandchild is truly special, and it is hard to describe until you experience it. Still, even with all the unconditional love and innocence, seniors may feel uncomfortable or anxious when left to entertain their grandchildren. After all, the world has changed dramatically, and little ones are used to being engaged in very different ways. But grandparents shouldn’t be intimidated – the bond you have with your grandchildren will thrive with just a bit of effort.
Most seniors desire a relationship with their grandkids, whether they see them often or the family lives many miles away. How can senior citizens maintain a robust and long-lasting bond that transcends the miles – and any generational challenges? We have some tips to help you grow your connections and thrive in your family relationships.
Be Their Biggest Fan: From the moment your grandbaby is born, they are learning, exploring, and growing. Grandparents can be a child’s biggest fan and loudest cheerleader – primarily because they don’t have any disciplinary duties! This doesn’t mean that you can let the kids run wild without restraint when they are in your care. But as any grandparent can attest, we are much more relaxed and much more willing to let little things slide at this stage of our life. Show support for whatever they are learning and attempting with zeal and enthusiasm, and they will be motivated to make you proud.
Put in the Time: Despite the stereotype, your grandchildren don’t need you to shower them with money to make them happy. A far more lucrative investment to make is the investment of your time. Read them a story, teach them a game, walk around the neighborhood, or take them for ice cream. They will remember and cherish all of these small, special moments they shared with their favorite grandparents.
Listen to What they Say: Listening is an art form, especially when listening to little children. When young ones are upset, they want to be able to vent and express themselves – not to have another adult chastising or correcting them. Be the one who listens to your grandchildren when they have a fear, a concern, or a seemingly endless story to tell. Intentional listening will calm them down and ease their frustration, and it will also build their trust in you.
Think Like a Young Person: you may think it impossible to relate to your grandchildren, but we were all young once. What did you enjoy? How did you view the world? How did you view your grandparents? Talk to the grandchildren about what they love to do, and see the activity through their eyes. You can teach them many new things, but remember – they can teach you too. Imagine seeing the world with newness and wonder again, and always keep the lines of communication open. Ask them what they think, and have them express what they enjoy. Your mindset will begin to get younger and younger as you connect with your grandchildren on a new level.
Engaging with others is vital to a positive outlook on life. Relationships with grandchildren are lovely, but so are the friendships you can make in a senior living residence. If you are a senior looking for a new home and a new lease on life, call A Banyan Residence in The Villages. We’d love to show you our assisted living and memory care facilities and discuss how we can help you or your loved one.
