Moving into an assisted living residence reflects a new phase in life – one which can be exhilarating and provide new interests. Reaching a predetermined age does not mean that enjoyment of life should cease, and if you are single, this is an opportune time to introduce yourself to someone new! Whether transitioning into a new facility or simply being eager to make a new friend, the process should not be intimidating. Senior relationships can be amazing and provide companionship to replace loneliness.

Some senior citizens have no issue with meeting new people online, and there are dating sites designed for those of us at a particular stage of life. Of course, many people (of all ages) still prefer the traditional way of meeting others – but no matter how you meet, we’ve assembled a few tips that can help you get used to the idea of a social life again.

5 Recommendations for Senior Relationships

Feeling nervous is to be expected: First dates always inspire some level of nervousness and trepidation, and senior citizen relationships are no exception. But while anxiety is normal, it shouldn’t dissuade you from going. Your nerves can cause you to miss out on incredible new people, experiences, and relationships. Be honest about your feelings, and laugh a bit to break the ice. Prepare a few questions to get the conversation going, and give yourself a break – dating can be a little scary but wonderful.
Allow yourself to feel giddy: As a teenager, your heart beat faster, and your stomach did flips when you met someone you liked. Butterflies, a sense of euphoria, being at a loss for words – all excellent indications that your heart is open to letting someone new into your life – and that the one you have met is a great choice!
Trust your gut instincts: One thing that may have changed from your youth – intuition, and discernment are typically more developed as a senior. Given your life experience, you should be able to have a good feeling after one date, whether or not this relationship is of interest to you. Of course, your relationship goals will dictate how you proceed – if you seek a long-term relationship, you may not wish to keep going if you don’t have a connection. However, if you are looking for new friendships, carry on. Just ensure you agree so no one misunderstands your intentions and gets hurt.
Commit to honesty: At this stage of life, playing games with other people should be well in the past. You should realistically expect your prospective new mate to feel the same. If you feel a “spark,” share your relationship goals, financial status, religious faith, and any other issues you consider “deal-breakers.” Make eye contact, tell the truth, and expect the same in return.
Be attentive to red flags: Chances are good that your personality and preferences are firmly established by age 65. If your date is critical, dismissive, shallow, or condescending, they probably won’t change. Don’t ignore the red flags if your companion makes you uncomfortable on your first date. It may be best to move on.

Depending on your personal situation and family relationships, the decision to renew your social life may cause some stress to your children and friends. Remember that any worries are based on their love and concern for you. Explain your need for love or companionship, but in the end, if they disagree – do what is right for you.

Like senior relationships, your choice of an assisted living residence must be made considering individual needs, desires, and cognitive/motor abilities. If you are ready to move into a senior home in The Villages, the staff at A Banyan Residence invite you to call our facility and schedule a personal tour.