Alzheimer’s Disease and other forms of dementia are progressive, which unfortunately means that decline is inevitable. The relationship that you experience with your loved one living with dementia will necessarily adapt and change, which can be deeply disconcerting for everyone involved. The close connection that you have with a loved one, however, allows you to remain loving and nurturing during this progression, and when times get more difficult.
Too often, families focus entirely on trying to slow or stop the progression of the disease. When their efforts fail, everyone becomes frustrated. The dementia patient may feel shame, embarrassment, and hopelessness, while their family can get impatient with mood swings and forgetful behaviors. Creating a safe environment for them to progress in their disease may feel challenging, but it can be a profound step that helps you towards acceptance.
Accepting the reality of dementia is emotional, as it represents a tangible loss – of relationships and cherished memories. At some point, the patient may even forget the names and faces of those most dear to them. As difficult as it may be, accepting this progression allows you and your loved one to move forward with dignity, understanding that no one is at fault for what is happening.
However, acceptance does not mean there is no grief. Family members should give themselves permission to grieve as their loved one slips away in their minds. You have every right to mourn the loss of the person you love and who meant the world to you. You should acknowledge your fears and trepidation about what the near future may hold – but never lose sight of the fact that your loved one is still present with you. The relationship is not gone, it has simply changed.
To better navigate through this difficult time with patience and grace, consider how you will answer hard questions before they arise – questions such as “Why am I here and not at home?” or “Where are my children?” You’ll also want to be prepared for moments of lucidity and clarity – when your loved one looks at you with recognition, what do you want to tell them?
Dementia patients often remember their youth and early adult years, so take this opportunity to get to know your loved one in depth. Ask them to tell you stories, then video their answers. This will not only give you greater insight into their lives and allow you to save the stories for generations – but it will bring peace to the dementia patient. Their world is becoming unfamiliar and confusing, but talking about their past will bring familiarity and comfort.
Memory Care Can Help
Many families decide to provide care at home, but others opt for memory care. Moving your loved one to a professional facility may help both of you to navigate dementia’s progression in several ways.
- The constant stress of caregiving is alleviated, allowing families to simply enjoy one another’s company.
- The professional staff is trained to patiently interact and not cause undue stress.
- Activities are geared towards the enrichment of all residents, and provide the opportunity to learn, have fun and meet people in a safe environment.
- The facility is equipped to handle the special needs of dementia patients and is monitored to prevent wandering.
- Residents are treated with dignity and respect, bolstering their self-confidence at a time they most need it.
A Banyan Residence is an assisted living and memory care facility that offers the care and compassion dementia patients need – and the peace of mind their family craves. To learn more about senior care options in the Ocala/Wildwood area, call today to schedule a tour and consultation.
