When an elderly parent lives at a senior care facility, such as assisted living or memory care, taking them home for the weekend can be a meaningful experience. However, a home visit requires thoughtful preparation. You’ll want to ensure their safety and comfort while remaining aware of how they are emotionally handling the change of scenery.
This article will discuss some practical steps you can take to ensure an enjoyable visit for both of you.
Consult with Staff Before Your Home Visit
Before planning a home visit, speak with the staff at the assisted living or memory care community. They can provide valuable insights into any medications, mobility aids, or dietary restrictions that you should be aware of, as well as any behaviors you should be mindful of, such as agitation or wandering. They can also suggest when your parent is typically most alert and calm so that you can recognize patterns.
Next, you’ll want to determine what length of visit is preferable. While a weekend might sound ideal to you, your loved one may not be ready to be away from their familiar environment for more than a day or overnight. You may wish to consider starting with a day home visit before attempting a weekend stay.
Important: Always remain flexible. If your loved one seems overtired or anxious when out and about, you may choose to go home. If your parent becomes confused or agitated, it is okay to cut the visit short and try again another time.
Prepare Your Home Environment
Adapting your home to accommodate your parent’s needs is critical, especially if mobility, memory, or medical issues are involved. If your loved one requires grab bars in the bathroom or needs a walker or cane, be sure to have those aids available. Make sure that walkways are clear, removing rugs or tripping hazards before they arrive. Prepare a comfortable, accessible place for them to sleep—preferably on the first floor, with good lighting to help prevent falls and minimize confusion.
If your loved one is prone to wandering, install childproof locks or alarms on doors.
Manage Medical and Personal Care Needs
Before leaving for the home visit, gather everything your parent will need, such as:
Medications: All medications should be clearly labeled, with a schedule to ensure that no medication is missed.
Incontinence Supplies: Pack adult briefs, wipes, and extra clothing if needed.
Hygiene Items: Bring their preferred toiletries, toothbrush, and any special personal care items.
Medical Equipment: Ensure any devices like oxygen tanks, hearing aids, or CPAP machines are brought along and functioning.
Plan Activities for the Visit with Their Needs in Mind
Help your loved one ease into the visit by bringing along familiar items (a favorite blanket, pillow, or photos). Talk gently with your parent about the visit—where they’re going, who will be there, and what to expect.
The most meaningful activities during their home visit are typically simple and familiar. For instance, prepare home-cooked favorites that they enjoy (remember to comply with any dietary restrictions). Listen to their favorite music with them or watch a film they always enjoyed. These familiar sensory experiences are ideal for promoting a sense of calm and will help them feel comfortable. Whenever possible, involve grandchildren or other loved ones in quiet, relaxed settings.
Offer frequent reassurance as necessary and stay calm if they become upset or disoriented. If possible, enjoy time outdoors—gardening, sitting on a porch, or taking short walks.
After the Visit: Returning to the Facility
The transition back can sometimes be emotional or confusing. Try to return during daylight hours, avoiding busy or stressful times of day. If they brought personal items, make sure they bring them back to the assisted living residence. Finally, communicate with facility staff about how the visit went and express any concerns you may have.
Bringing your elderly parent home for a weekend can be a wonderful experience, but it’s essential to thoughtfully create a safe, loving environment that supports their well-being.
A Banyan Residence is a professional assisted living and memory care facility with residences in Venice and The Villages.
